Queen of the Home {7}

 

 

"But may not woman, in every way in her power - benefit society by her talents and influence?

Certainly, in every legitimate way. Her sphere is clearly assigned to her by God....

Woman can be spared from the lecturer's chair, the platform of general convocation, and the scene of public business;

but she cannot be spared from the hearth of her husband and the circle of her children!

Substitutes can be found for her in the one, but not in the other.

In the bosom of domestic privacy she fulfills with truest dignity and faithfulness the first and highest obligations of her sex."

Update on Noah

Dear friends,

Noah has improved and is now stable!  Go here for an update.

Thanks so much for your prayers! Please continue to pray..

A Tea Party With My Children

Every now and then my children and I have a tea party. Yes..you read that right. I said, "my children"; not just "my girls".  My boys love the parties as much as my girls.

Some of you might wonder why  boys would want to have a tea party. Simple: wherever  there's food,  you'll find my boys.  :)

Even if they have to use their very best manners...and even if they have to dress up in their Sunday best.

Here are some photos of our latest tea party..


The dishes are ready.....

The Russian teacakes are ready.....(yes! we use real food!)

Time to eat!

And by the way, we drink milk instead of tea.  :)

Tea parties are a fun way to reinforce table manners -  and make memories with your children at  the same time.

Have a blessed day, friends!








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Queen of the Home 6

"What would be gained to woman's comfort, respectability, or usefulness, or to the welfare of society, and how much would be lost to each, by withdrawing her from her own appropriate sphere, and introducing her to that for which she has no adaptation?

Who, but a few wild visionaries, and rash speculatists, and mistaken advocates of 'women's rights' would take her from the home of her husband, of her children, and of her own heart - to wear out her strength,consume her time, and destroy her feminine excellence - in committee rooms, on platforms, in mechanics' or philosophical institutions?"

Please Pray for Noah

Dear friends,

Little Noah is seriously ill with an infection that is not responding to antibiotics. Read here for an update or use the link on my right sidebar.

Please continue to pray for him and his family. Thank you.

Praising the Good

It's so easy for me to become focused on what my children do wrong..

 - when my five year old forgets to make her bed - again. And I have to remind her again.

 - when my angry boys resort to punching each other, I have to become "judge and jury" to figure out who's right and who's wrong. I have to discipline them and train them in patience and love.

 - when the trash isn't taken out - again, I have to track down the guilty party, make sure he does the job, and train him toward greater responsibility.

But when the bed is made, I barely acknowledge her hard work. When no one is arguing, we manage to get more on our to-do list done. When the trash is taken out, we just put more trash in the trash can.

When things are going well, it's easy for me to forget to give thanks and commend those who are doing well. I have come to realize that I can unintentionally discourage my children when I remember to discipline them, but forget to encourage.

In 1 Peter 2:14, Peter mentions leaders that are sent by God "to punish those who do evil and to praise those who do good." The same can be said for us as mothers.

It can be likened to making deposits and withdrawals in a checking account. If we just write checks and never make deposits, the checks we write will bounce. In the same way, if we just correct our children but never encourage them, our discipline efforts will fail.

Personally, I tend to "overdraw" and spot the wrong-doer before I spot the right-doer.  But my children started to change when I started to change. I started to look for what they were doing right. Instead of focusing all my attention on all their wrongdoing, I looked for opportunities to encourage them and bless them when they were doing something good. And that's when things began to change.

That's how the Lord treats me. He doesn't overlook my sin. He keeps His promises and disciplines me (often after much long-suffering and mercy on His part). But He also blesses me when, by His grace, I obey Him. The Scriptures are full of promises of blessing for those who choose to obey Him. And those promises are part of what gives me hope as I persevere in following Him.

Many of you are probably very good at encouraging your children when they do well. For those of you who are like me, I challenge you to spend the next few days catching your children doing good things.

 Conduct an "experiment": Pay attention and grab every opportunity to encourage and bless. Watch your children playing happily together, think about all the chores they do around the house, and appreciate their strong points. Take notes if you have to - I did!  :) And start blessing your children with encouragement.

For example,  words of encouragement: "I love you!" "Look how much you've improved in this area!" "You are such a blessing to me!" "Yay! I saw that! Good job!" "I've noticed that you and   _____ are getting along much better today. God is helping you to be more patient, isn't He?" "Your cheerful attitude is such an encouragement to me."

Physical gestures: A wink across the room, a big smile, a big hug, applause!

Gifts and special events: Sometimes real progress in an area of serious struggle might deserve a special blessing - a special home-baked treat, a favorite dinner, a piece of jewelry, or some other special gift...along with words of love and encouragement.

I'd love to hear about the results of your "experiment".   :)

"..do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."  ~  Ephesians 6:4

Have a blessed day, friends!
  







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Noah

Dear friends,

While requesting prayer for  Annaleigh's family, I felt compelled to also ask for prayer for a little boy named Noah.  He has been through so much during his short life..and his parents are now facing a big decision. Prayers are coveted for him and his family.

You can read his story here,  or use the link on my right sidebar.

Thank you.